I know this phrase usually gets a bad wrap. But, I know lots of ways I've said it that aren't demeaning but enduring. It's been a joy and an honor to see myself develop some of the wonderful characteristics of my mother.
I'm not sure today's experience of thinking this started off with such enduring thoughts.
I remember when I was little that my dad teased my mom about folding the laundry before putting in the dryer.. after removing it from the washer. I remember thinking about this as a teenager and deciding it was one more neurotic behavior of my mother that I WASN'T ever going to repeat. (it's a teenagers job to see a mother's diligence and attention to detail as neurotic... right?)
Well. Today, I became neurotic. You know how "in" jeans are a darker wash.. and thicker material? Well, as lovely as they are and as much as I love oogling at my husband in his.. and prancing around in mine. They drive me NUTS!
I can't seem to get them to come out of the dryer without the legs being all crinkled and twisted. And I am NOT going to go as far into the land of the neurotic as to IRON jeans! No.
So, I decided to dip my toe in by following my mother's folding of the clothing before drying them. "I've become my mother" I thought to myself.
Well, it worked. They came out straight and un-crinkled. They look wonderful. All the better to oogle at and prance around in. Neurotic-ness wins.
And, to be fair to my mom. When I finally got around to asking her about this habit of folding clothes before putting them in the dryer (well, actually I think I was attempting to make fun of her) she informed me that she NEVER did that. She would simply shake things out and instead of wad them back up she'd fold it in half or something before throwing it into the dryer.
So, my "I've become my mom" thought may have started as an, "Oh great!" kind of thought.. but definitely turned into thinking how wonderful she was for putting such attention into the laundry swap so as to make sure clothes came out needing the least amount of straightening.
Just goes to show that no matter how old I am. No matter how long it's been since my mom "trained" me in the art of housework. She still knows best.